Identity & Becoming Archives - fromthelees.com https://fromthelees.com/category/identity-and-becoming/ Tue, 07 Jul 2026 22:43:06 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0.2 The gap between what you do and what you wish you did is not laziness https://fromthelees.com/the-gap-between-what-you-do-and-what-you-wish-you-did-is-not-laziness/ Fri, 10 Jul 2026 13:00:00 +0000 https://fromthelees.com/?p=979 I painted a dresser. I hosted a birthday party. I sewed a doll. I bake enough bread so that our family always has bread. I go to yoga most days. I grow some fruit and vegetables in our backyard. I still call myself lazy because I don’t live in a clean house and I’d rather

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]]> I painted a dresser. I hosted a birthday party. I sewed a doll. I bake enough bread so that our family always has bread. I go to yoga most days. I grow some fruit and vegetables in our backyard. I still call myself lazy because I don’t live in a clean house and I’d rather learn about taxes than do something about it.

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]]> I want to arrive https://fromthelees.com/i-want-to-arrive/ Sun, 05 Jul 2026 13:00:00 +0000 https://fromthelees.com/?p=967 I find myself in this loop. I want to be seen as an expert. Successful. Arrived. But my mind tells me that I’m not an expert in anything. If I want to be respected, I must be credentialed. What a funny belief that gives my power away. And even funnier – I’m not the only.

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]]> I find myself in this loop. I want to be seen as an expert. Successful. Arrived. But my mind tells me that I’m not an expert in anything. If I want to be respected, I must be credentialed. What a funny belief that gives my power away. And even funnier – I’m not the only.

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]]> The first time I lost myself https://fromthelees.com/the-first-time-i-lost-myself/ Tue, 23 Jun 2026 13:00:00 +0000 https://fromthelees.com/?p=897 I did gymnastics from the time I was four until I was thirteen. Nine years of becoming someone specific – someone who was going to be the best, who was going to make it. Then the fear got bigger than the will to push through it, and I stopped. No one told me that quitting

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]]> I did gymnastics from the time I was four until I was thirteen. Nine years of becoming someone specific – someone who was going to be the best, who was going to make it. Then the fear got bigger than the will to push through it, and I stopped. No one told me that quitting a sport at thirteen could mean losing yourself. That the work of rebuilding an identity is enormous at any age – but at thirteen you don’t even know that’s what you’re doing. All the activities, all the people, your whole life as you knew it – gone. And you are the only one left figuring out how to fill that void.

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]]> Stop explaining, hold your ground https://fromthelees.com/stop-explaining-hold-your-ground/ Wed, 17 Jun 2026 13:00:00 +0000 https://fromthelees.com/?p=885 I posted the car seat with all the details – the brand, the condition, the reason it was safe. People lowballed and ghosted me anyway. I decided to change tactics. I reposted with no details and held my price. It sold. The energy I spent justifying the value was doubt wearing the costume of information.

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]]> I posted the car seat with all the details – the brand, the condition, the reason it was safe. People lowballed and ghosted me anyway. I decided to change tactics. I reposted with no details and held my price. It sold. The energy I spent justifying the value was doubt wearing the costume of information.

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]]> I’m not ready to get out of my own way yet https://fromthelees.com/im-not-ready-to-get-out-of-my-own-way-yet/ Fri, 12 Jun 2026 13:00:00 +0000 https://fromthelees.com/?p=874 I can see what I want to build. I can see the resistance too – the part that isn’t ready to show who I really am. Knowing the block is there doesn’t make it disappear. But naming it is the first honest step. I’m not ready. And I’m writing anyway.

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]]> I can see what I want to build. I can see the resistance too – the part that isn’t ready to show who I really am. Knowing the block is there doesn’t make it disappear. But naming it is the first honest step. I’m not ready. And I’m writing anyway.

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]]> I know my way is in here somewhere https://fromthelees.com/i-know-my-way-is-in-here-somewhere/ Thu, 11 Jun 2026 13:00:00 +0000 https://fromthelees.com/?p=872 There are so many ways to realize value. I don’t know exactly which one is mine yet. But I know it lives at the intersection of helping people effortlessly, using what I’ve cultivated, and being able to keep doing it without burning out. I don’t need to see it clearly to believe it’s there. That’s

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]]> There are so many ways to realize value. I don’t know exactly which one is mine yet. But I know it lives at the intersection of helping people effortlessly, using what I’ve cultivated, and being able to keep doing it without burning out. I don’t need to see it clearly to believe it’s there. That’s what faith is.

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]]> Confidence gets quieter https://fromthelees.com/confidence-gets-quieter/ Mon, 08 Jun 2026 13:00:00 +0000 https://fromthelees.com/?p=866 I heard it said that explaining yourself reveals your uncertainty. That when you’re truly confident and sure, you stop arguing, stop justifying. You just get quieter. I’m still learning what that silence feels like from inside.

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]]> I heard it said that explaining yourself reveals your uncertainty. That when you’re truly confident and sure, you stop arguing, stop justifying. You just get quieter. I’m still learning what that silence feels like from inside.

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]]> Obsession is just how I install things https://fromthelees.com/obsession-is-just-how-i-install-things/ Sat, 06 Jun 2026 13:00:00 +0000 https://fromthelees.com/?p=862 I get obsessed. I go deep, learn everything, consume it completely. And then one day the grip loosens – not because I forced it, but because the thing got installed. I stop needing the obsession once the outcome is just part of how I live. The wanting didn’t fail. It finished.

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]]> I get obsessed. I go deep, learn everything, consume it completely. And then one day the grip loosens – not because I forced it, but because the thing got installed. I stop needing the obsession once the outcome is just part of how I live. The wanting didn’t fail. It finished.

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]]> There is a type of wealth that cannot be taken from you https://fromthelees.com/there-is-a-type-of-wealth-that-cannot-be-taken-from-you/ Thu, 04 Jun 2026 13:00:00 +0000 https://fromthelees.com/?p=858 I pushed through so much discomfort. I learned myself. I know now that I am smart, not lazy – capable and skilled. It took a lot to prove it to myself and sometimes I forget or don’t believe. This knowing, however fragile, is a type of wealth I keep cultivating slowly.

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]]> I pushed through so much discomfort. I learned myself. I know now that I am smart, not lazy – capable and skilled. It took a lot to prove it to myself and sometimes I forget or don’t believe. This knowing, however fragile, is a type of wealth I keep cultivating slowly.

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]]> Readiness is evidence, not luck https://fromthelees.com/readiness-is-evidence-not-luck/ Sun, 31 May 2026 13:00:00 +0000 https://fromthelees.com/?p=842 I picked up something new and did it well quickly. My first instinct was to dismiss it – beginner’s luck, nothing special. But if I consistently do things well when I finally feel the pull toward them, that’s not an accident. That’s data about how I’m wired. The block was never my ability. It was

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]]> I picked up something new and did it well quickly. My first instinct was to dismiss it – beginner’s luck, nothing special. But if I consistently do things well when I finally feel the pull toward them, that’s not an accident. That’s data about how I’m wired. The block was never my ability. It was waiting for my own permission to begin.

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